Your baby is finally here at home with you, and it’s been a long ride. That jacked up nesting instinct really kicked in right before she came, and the house is spotless and organized. And now that she’s here you might be thinking about a few things; stuff you wish you had done, things that may not have needed all the attention you gave it, and “I’m not going to need half of this baby stuff.”
Well here’s a few things I want to share about what I wish I knew before my baby came home. There’s such an overwhelming feeling of emotion and exhaustion, you don’t want to feel weighed down by meaningless things that your newly developed “mom brain” will overload you with. So let’s minimize and prioritize.
1.) Your baby really won’t need anything but you.
For the first month (and even longer), your baby only needs mom, especially if you’re breastfeeding. You don’t need all these fancy baby holding devices because chances are you’re going to have the baby wrapped up in your arms 24/7. I was all prepared with my Moby wrap and swings and all sorts of gadgets, when in reality, I didn’t even attempt the Moby wrap until Athena was two weeks old. You’re most likely going to be feeding on demand, so just make sure that you’re 100% available for your new babe when they need it. I’m not going to lie, it’s pretty intense and tiring, but further down the road, you don’t really remember what it was like; all you remember is that you got out on the other side.
2.) People are going to want to visit. A lot. And it’s annoying.
Friends and family are excited, that’s a given. Sometimes they can be a little overzealous though unfortunately. They mean well of course, but during the first few weeks you’re going to be tired, shirtless, and kind of a hot mess. Don’t be afraid to put your foot down and limit visitors for a least the first month. I didn’t let anyone through the door who didn’t have current shots, or even the hint of a scratchy throat. Get. Away. From. Her. I swear, you become a savage cavewoman protecting your cub. And like I said before, you’re going to be mostly shirtless all the time (easy access of course). If you do want visitors and don’t mind, just make sure that they’re doing something helpful or productive when they come over; bring some dinner, do the dishes for you, vacuum, etc. Coming over and holding the sleeping baby for ten minutes is not really beneficial for you in the long run.
3.) Don’t give a sh** about cleaning.
You just pushed a human being out of your body…seriously let someone else do the cleaning. Or tell them to…either way, you do not need to be cleaning the bathroom or washing dishes. You know what was really an awesome idea that my husband initiated? PAPER PLATES. So easy, and no dishes to clean. Always a win.
In addition to just relaxing, let your body heal. No matter how you gave birth, it was hard work. So be nice to yourself and your body, it does so much for you and that baby and will continue to do so.
Especially if your breastfeeding, you need to be pushing calories. And not any crap you can find, I’m talking protein and veggies. Nourish your body and your baby. For me, eating was not something I made a priority until my husband brought it my attention. There was no way I was going to survive drinking a protein shake every 4 hours while breastfeeding every 1-2 hours. SO EAT MOMMY.
It's simple guys, and as long as you keep the simplicity, your stress levels will stay low. It's time to let go for awhile, and bask in the glory of that new babe. Eat, sleep, nurse. Eat, sleep, nurse.