Your baby is finally here at home with you, and it’s been a long ride. That jacked up nesting instinct really kicked in right before she came, and the house is spotless and organized. And now that she’s here you might be thinking about a few things; stuff you wish you had done, things that may not have needed all the attention you gave it, and “I’m not going to need half of this baby stuff.”
Well here’s a few things I want to share about what I wish I knew before my baby came home. There’s such an overwhelming feeling of emotion and exhaustion, you don’t want to feel weighed down by meaningless things that your newly developed “mom brain” will overload you with. So let’s minimize and prioritize.
1.) Your baby really won’t need anything but you.
For the first month (and even longer), your baby only needs mom, especially if you’re breastfeeding. You don’t need all these fancy baby holding devices because chances are you’re going to have the baby wrapped up in your arms 24/7. I was all prepared with my Moby wrap and swings and all sorts of gadgets, when in reality, I didn’t even attempt the Moby wrap until Athena was two weeks old. You’re most likely going to be feeding on demand, so just make sure that you’re 100% available for your new babe when they need it. I’m not going to lie, it’s pretty intense and tiring, but further down the road, you don’t really remember what it was like; all you remember is that you got out on the other side.
2.) People are going to want to visit. A lot. And it’s annoying.
Friends and family are excited, that’s a given. Sometimes they can be a little overzealous though unfortunately. They mean well of course, but during the first few weeks you’re going to be tired, shirtless, and kind of a hot mess. Don’t be afraid to put your foot down and limit visitors for a least the first month. I didn’t let anyone through the door who didn’t have current shots, or even the hint of a scratchy throat. Get. Away. From. Her. I swear, you become a savage cavewoman protecting your cub. And like I said before, you’re going to be mostly shirtless all the time (easy access of course). If you do want visitors and don’t mind, just make sure that they’re doing something helpful or productive when they come over; bring some dinner, do the dishes for you, vacuum, etc. Coming over and holding the sleeping baby for ten minutes is not really beneficial for you in the long run.
3.) Don’t give a sh** about cleaning.
You just pushed a human being out of your body…seriously let someone else do the cleaning. Or tell them to…either way, you do not need to be cleaning the bathroom or washing dishes. You know what was really an awesome idea that my husband initiated? PAPER PLATES. So easy, and no dishes to clean. Always a win.
In addition to just relaxing, let your body heal. No matter how you gave birth, it was hard work. So be nice to yourself and your body, it does so much for you and that baby and will continue to do so.
Especially if your breastfeeding, you need to be pushing calories. And not any crap you can find, I’m talking protein and veggies. Nourish your body and your baby. For me, eating was not something I made a priority until my husband brought it my attention. There was no way I was going to survive drinking a protein shake every 4 hours while breastfeeding every 1-2 hours. SO EAT MOMMY.
It's simple guys, and as long as you keep the simplicity, your stress levels will stay low. It's time to let go for awhile, and bask in the glory of that new babe. Eat, sleep, nurse. Eat, sleep, nurse.
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Remember what it was like leaving the house before baby? Grab your bag, keys, jacket, and you’re out. You can literally be out of the house at the drop of a hat…the good ‘ol days.
Well now you’ve got your little bundle of love to accompany you everywhere, and fear not; leaving the house with your baby for the first time doesn’t have to be a daunting and anxiously anticipated task, especially with a handy little checklist. Mom’s first outing alone with the baby is bound to bring some unforeseen issues, so it’s best to bring the essentials (and maybe some things you may need in an emergency poo-splosion). Now, you don’t want an overloaded diaper back, mostly because there is nothing more frustrating than balancing a carseat on one arm and trying to shuffle through the bag to find your keys (that always seem to be in the very bottom, buried deep beneath a boat-load of baby stuff). So try to follow this list to keep and organized bag, a happy and prepared baby, and hopefully a stressful outing for mommy!
1.) Diapers (duh.)
Yes you’re bound to have to change one or two nappy’s while you’re out. This is why every women’s bathroom has those lovely (gross) diaper changing pull down tables…which brings me to my next point.
2.) Baby wipes/Lysol wipes/ and a personal changing mat
No one likes a public restroom, giving the array of crawling and creeping germs in every corner. But alas, it must be used once or twice to change a diaper, so let’s make sure it’s as clean as we can make it. Wipe down the actual changing table with the Lysol wipes first THEN put your own personal changing map down (preferably one of those nice, thick, waterproof ones.) Clean baby’s bum, and once you’re all done, wipe down your changing mat (front and back) with the Lysol wipes. Boom, you’re back cruising the Target aisles with a clean babe.
3.) A bottle of breastmilk or formula
Depending on how long you’re gone, you can simply store the bottle in your purse at room temperature (2 hours max). Any longer, and I suggest a little foldable lunch-bag cooler. Some even have clips so you can secure right to the handle of your diaper bag. If you’re baby is like mine, you might have a breastmilk diva on your hands, who needs the milk in the bottle to be a perfect temperature. Generally there are no heating devices, so I’ve take up the #normalizebreastfeeding movement stance, and I proudly feed my daughter in public. Or, if you have mommy super powers and are really good at timing things…you can simply time the hours which you leave the house and you know your little one won’t be hungry.
4.) Pacifier/binky/dummy (whatever you want to call it)
Some mommy’s don’t like them, but hey, when my baby is fussing in the middle of the checkout line…whip out the binky and put it in, she absolutely loves her (and it helps soothe until you can get her elsewhere).
5.) Extra change of clothes (seriously, don’t forget it.)
There’s nothing worse than having a major public poo-splosion on your hands and then realizing…sh**, I have no clothes for baby. And do not, for the love of God, underestimate the power of a poo-splosion. Your baby will bust out of that diaper and all over the cute flowered dress that she wore for the occasion. But you, all prepared and such, have diligently packed an extra onesie and a little pair of pants. Good for you! Clean her up, and you’re back on your way.
So these are really the *essentials*. I know there are a lot of other useful things to pack in your bag like:
-entertainment (rattles, shakers, etc)
-hats, socks, etc
-burp rags, bibs
I feel like these are the things that might be okay to forget once in awhile. However, the five listed things for your diaper bag are a must have in my opinion. I wouldn’t be caught out of the house without them!
And there you are! I hope your first outing is beautiful, stress-free, and provides you with the confidence to tackle any future outings with your little babe…enjoy!
Note: I bought this amazing Eddie Bauer bag from Amazon. It's super cute, spacious, and it comes with that handy dandy waterproof changing pad I mentioned. I'm a hands-free, backpack type of person, so this thing is perfect!